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AmberJane
02-22-04, 07:16 PM
get to call him your boyfriend?
All the other relationship milestones are pretty well-defined, right?
Fiancé - when you accept the ring.
Husband - "I now pronounce you husband and wife.."
Ex - When the papers come back from the courthouse.
Date - when he shows up.
Guy I'm **ing - when you, well, you know.. (blush).
So, when do you get to call him your boyfriend? I'm not saying this situation is urgent by any means for me personally, but I've had three dates with a particular gentleman this past week, and in my heart I'm starting to think that way. (blushes again).
Is it when you kiss? Have sex? Have really incredible sex? Make him breakfast? Make a committment of exclusivity? It feels like a milestone, but where's the stone?
4everfit
02-22-04, 07:21 PM
I go with "make a commitment of exclusivity"
Make a committment of exclusivity?
Just MHO. Before that, he's just a "guy you're seeing", which doesn't nescessarily portend boyfriend.
Better yet, ask him what he'd like to be called. :D
velvett
02-23-04, 08:22 PM
Just after he introduces you to his friends and/or family as "my girlfriend".
Men are weird like that - it's ok for them to call you girlfriend but if you call them boyfriend first or too soon they just get all weird on ya.
Of course - all mileage will vary.
AmberJane
02-23-04, 08:36 PM
Just after he introduces you to his friends and/or family as "my girlfriend".
How come he gets to pick when? No fair!
Oh, I know why. It's the whole possessiveness thing.
velvett
02-23-04, 08:59 PM
How come he gets to pick when? No fair!
Oh, I know why. It's the whole possessiveness thing.
:lol:
Boys are weird.
Boys are weird.
Yes, indeed.
How come he gets to pick when? No fair!
My sentiments exactly; I think we should get to decide, but society in general doesn't seem to agree with me.
I'm going with the "declaration of exclusiveness" moment.
AmberJane
02-29-04, 12:03 AM
Well, as of about two hours ago, the question has become moot. Yay! Jane has a boyfriend.
velvett
02-29-04, 03:07 PM
Well, as of about two hours ago, the question has become moot. Yay! Jane has a boyfriend.
:awink:
GO JANE!
Well, as of about two hours ago, the question has become moot. Yay! Jane has a boyfriend.
Well what happened girl? What was the milestone that confirmed it? :) :)
And congrats and good luck. :dancing:
[QUOTE=anya]Well what happened girl? What was the milestone that confirmed it? :) :)QUOTE]
oh yes....do tell :lol:
AmberJane
03-01-04, 08:36 PM
Well what happened girl? What was the milestone that confirmed it? :) :)
oh yes....do tell :lol:
Well, we were snuggling and he started to tell me about having been asked out by a woman he dated last year, and realizing that he didn't want to see anyone else, and did I feel the same way? My response, though not verbal in its nature, was a pretty emphatic yes.
This thread makes me wish I had more real-life girlfriends like you ladies. :)
Jane has a boo-ooyfriend, Jane has a boo-ooyfriend! :dancing:
This thread makes me wish I had more real-life girlfriends like you ladies. :)
Jane has a boo-ooyfriend, Jane has a boo-ooyfriend! :dancing:
Heeheehee, I was going to do the same thing yesterday!!
velvett
03-02-04, 01:59 PM
Well, we were snuggling and he started to tell me about having been asked out by a woman he dated last year, and realizing that he didn't want to see anyone else, and did I feel the same way? My response, though not verbal in its nature, was a pretty emphatic yes.
Awwwwwwww.
:awink:
PRisnumerouno
03-02-04, 02:07 PM
Coming from a guy, I like it when the girl calls me her bf first. It makes me feel good about myself and good about the relationship, but some guys are scared of commitment so be careful. Guys are not as plain and simple as most girls make them out to be. We all want different things, but I beleive that you are ready to call him this when you can find yourself cuddling with him and laughing over nonsence.
Love and relationships are hard, and i had to find out the hard way!! :bigcry:
AmberJane
03-02-04, 07:51 PM
Heeheehee, I was going to do the same thing yesterday!!
You guys are so incredibly sweet. I was thinking just the other day that I miss the company of other women too (haven't made a lot of friends in my new town, yet, and I miss that).
So, yeah, the boyfriend thing is pretty cool. I hope it's working out wonderfully for each of you too.
La, la laa.. happy Jane.. la la...
Rarefish
03-03-04, 06:47 AM
For us guys, it's weird when a girl brings that up. It's alot easier on us and our fragile egos and commitment issues if you go ahead and let us ask first. It casts a weird light on things if you bring it up and it's too early. Women tend to get attached long before guys do.
My response, though not verbal in its nature, was a pretty emphatic yes.
wooo wooo :lol: good for you* big smile for you*
DrBones
05-17-04, 06:53 PM
Women tend to get attached way faster than I do, I find. I don't think I can speak for all guys, but when a woman comes on to strong, starts to get really attached, or starts referring to me as things we've never discussed I tend to get a bit freaked out. A little freaked out gets my mind moving which winds up turning into freaked olut a lot.. But thats just me...
Way to go with landing a bf jane!
litebar
05-17-04, 09:09 PM
This was why I asked any girl I dated 'regularly' how she prefered to be introduced when we were going to be with a number of my friends or family. Date, friend, girlfriend?????
I just wanted them to feel comfortable and at ease without stressing out. I always figured that whatever depth our relatonship was at, or heading, didn't depend so much on the label. Of course, I would prefer to be in a comfortable friendship over a torrid love affair if we were not buddies.
I guess thats why I married the first girl that I really 'fell for' or could relate with as a friend. She's still my best buddy....
AmberJane
05-17-04, 09:40 PM
Way to go with landing a bf jane!
Well, I had to throw him back, actually. Turned out to be a momma's boy, and I was unable to be her, and of course, "Ewwwww!"
Don't ya just hate it when that happens. I watch my single friends go thru this all the time. They are either crazy, crazy and posessive, mamma's boy or decent guy but lousy in bed or totally lacking in character but a great lay. You girls just can't win. Makes me soo happy to be married...sometimes I feel like I should share him.
DrBones
05-18-04, 12:56 AM
Jane: can you define a mommas boy? I always wondered what girls meant by this....
I love my mom... does that make me a momma's boy? I'm just curious if i fit into this unsought after category
A mama's boy is someone who is constantly comparing you to his mother, and/or whose major life decisions are made by mom. Someone who compares apples to oranges, in other words, and lacks reasoning ability. Unattractive qualities no matter what gender they are.
Sorry it didn't work out. There's more fish in the sea. :)
Fragadelic
05-18-04, 06:09 AM
get to call him your boyfriend?
When you become and integral part of each others lives - this would presume, then, that you'd also be his girlfriend - Next :D
AmberJane
05-18-04, 10:15 AM
A mama's boy is someone who is constantly comparing you to his mother, and/or whose major life decisions are made by mom.
Ceebs has it right here. At first it was "my mother does this this way" or "My mother always says 'thus and such'" which is a little endearing to begin with. But when it is four or five times per conversation, one wonders.
For me what freaked me out was the 'meet the parents' weekend, where I met her and discovered she was a tall slender redhead, just like me.
Ceebs has it right here. At first it was "my mother does this this way" or "My mother always says 'thus and such'" which is a little endearing to begin with. But when it is four or five times per conversation, one wonders.
For me what freaked me out was the 'meet the parents' weekend, where I met her and discovered she was a tall slender redhead, just like me.
Spooky...that would freak me out as well. Sorry to hear things didn't work out. :noentry: How old was he (if you don't mind me asking)?
DrBones
05-18-04, 11:09 AM
OK.... Fewph... I passed the mommas boy test... thank god...
AmberJane
05-18-04, 11:48 AM
Spooky...that would freak me out as well. Sorry to hear things didn't work out. :noentry: How old was he (if you don't mind me asking)?
He was 38 - seven years older than me. Also, he played in the NFL and was working as a trial lawyer. I really didn't see it coming, which made me feel stupid because I like to imagine that I'm fairly perceptive.
litebar
05-18-04, 12:14 PM
Was his mom elderly or decrepit? I can't imagine a man wanting to live in his moms approval shadow unles she was in a hospace programm or somethnig.
Sheesh, what a loser. Oh well, life is full of people that are scared to grab the brass ring and hang on for success because they fear uncertranty and the unknown. His loss, next serve.
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